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France is famous for its incredible food, from delectable pastries to world-renowned cheeses and wines. But along with its celebrated cuisine comes a dining culture filled with traditions, customs, and a few unwritten rules.
Don’t that scare you, though. French dining etiquette isn’t nearly as intimidating as it sounds. Most of it simply comes down to respecting the meal, the people you’re dining with, and the restaurant itself.
Whether you’re visiting France for a week, planning your first trip to Paris, or maybe even recently moved here, understanding French food manners will not only help you fit in but enjoy your meals so much more.
After living in France for over 7 years, I’ve learned which customs actually matter and which ones tourists tend to overthink. In this guide, I’ll walk you through everything you need to know, from making reservations and ordering food to tipping, paying the bill, and avoiding the most common etiquette mistakes visitors make.
Why French Dining Is Different
One of the biggest differences you’ll notice is that meals aren’t treated as something to race through. French dining culture places a strong emphasis on enjoying good food, good company, and conversation.
It’s completely normal for a meal, especially a weekend dinner, to stretch on for hours. I definitely had to learn to be more patient when eating with my French friends and colleagues.
Restaurants aren’t designed around getting diners in and out as quickly as possible. Instead, you’re encouraged to savor each course and even stay for dessert and coffee.
If you’re used to North American restaurants where servers refill your drink every few minutes and bring the bill as soon as you finish eating, France can feel slow at first. But once you embrace the pace, it’s one of the things that makes dining here so pleasurable.
General French Dining Etiquette
Every restaurant and region can have slightly different conventions, but there are a few French dining etiquette rules you’ll encounter almost everywhere. Here are some quick tips to keep in mind:
- Keep your hands on the table. In France, your hands should remain visible, resting on either side of your plate when you’re not eating. Avoid keeping them in your lap or under the table.
- Don’t stress about the napkin. Some French people wait until the meal begins, while others put their napkin on their lap right away. There isn’t one universally accepted approach, so do as you please.
- Hold your cutlery properly. The French typically hold their knife in the right hand and the fork in the left when cutting food. Rather than gripping your utensils tightly, rest your index finger gently along the handle. Très elegant.
- Wait before you dig in. It’s considered polite to wait until everyone has been served and everyone says Bon appétit before beginning your meal.
- Be mindful of your volume. Good table manners include chewing with your mouth closed, avoiding loud noises, and keeping your voice at a moderate volume. Restaurants in France tend to be quieter than many visitors expect!
- Show that you’ve finished eating. When you’ve finished your meal, place your knife and fork neatly together on your plate, angled slightly to the right. This lets the host or server know you’re done.
- Enjoy the experience. Perhaps the most important rule of all is not to rush! Take your time, enjoy each course, and order an extra glass of wine if you must. That’s what French dining culture is all about.
Meal Time in France
Unlike in many countries where food is available all day, France still follows fairly structured meal times.
Breakfast is usually very simple and often not eaten out. Locals might grab a quick coffee and a croissant at a nearby café if they’re not eating at home, but sitting down for a full breakfast is uncommon outside of hotels. The only other exception might be for weekend brunch.
Lunch is generally served between 12 and 2:30 p.m. Many restaurants close shortly after lunch service ends and reopen around 7 p.m. for dinner.
Dinner is typically eaten later than in the U.S., usually between 7 and 10 p.m.
Of course, there are exceptions depending on the type of establishment, but outside of these hours, many traditional restaurants will not be serving food at all.
Some brasseries offer service continu, meaning continuous service throughout the day and even well into the evening.
It’s also worth noting that a restaurant opening too early for dinner or even all day can sometimes be catering more to tourists than local.
Making Reservations
If you already know where and when you want to eat, it’s not a bad idea to make a reservation, especially in cities like Paris or during weekends.
It’s not always necessary, but for popular restaurants, it gives you far more peace of mind.
I would also suggest booking in advance if you’re dining as a group. Smaller restaurants (and there are a lot in France) often have limited seating, so accommodating a larger party without notice can be more difficult.
The good news is that most bookings are free. However, some restaurants may request a credit card to prevent no-shows. You can typically book on the restaurant’s website, by phone and nowadays through their Instagram or Facebook page.
Be sure to arrive on time, but if you’re going to be more than about 15 minutes late, it’s polite to call ahead so they don’t give your table away.
Some restaurants don’t take reservations at all and operate on a first-come, first-served basis. If you decide to eat at such an establishment, there might be a short wait. In that case, it’s completely normal to enjoy a drink nearby and come back when your table is ready. There might even be a bar inside where you can wait.
What to Wear
Let’s talk dress code (this is mostly a French style blog after all).
I’ve noticed that many visitors assume France is highly formal, but in reality, most restaurants are quite casual. The difference is that “casual” in France still tends to look intentional, clean, and well put together.
As a general rule, you should avoid overly athletic or casual items such as gym clothes, leggings/sweatpants, baseball caps and flip flops.
Instead, I would opt for some of the following pieces: nice jeans or pants, a well-fitted t-shirt or blouse, a blazer or structured jacket, and clean sneakers.
For fancy Michelin-starred restaurants, it’s always worth checking the restaurant’s website in advance for any dress code guidance. In my experience, only a few extremely formal places require strict attire, but many upscale restaurants still expect a slightly elevated version of casual.
A helpful tip if you’re unsure is to look up photos of the restaurant on Google. Especially for popular spots, you can get a sense of the atmosphere and how people typically dress. I do this all the time when I’m traveling!
I also have dozens of Paris style guides including what to wear to dinner in Paris and what not to wear in Paris.
Being Seated
In most traditional restaurants, the first thing they’ll ask is whether you have a reservation. If you do, give your name and they’ll normally show you to your table.
And if your table isn’t ready within about 15 minutes of your booking time, many establishments offer a drink (often an apéritif) as a polite way to acknowledge the wait.
If you don’t have a reservation and the restaurant is full, they may offer you an estimated waiting time.
In some restaurants, especially smaller or busier ones, they may require your full party to be present before seating you. Others will seat whoever has arrived, but if someone is significantly late, they may ask you to order at least a drink while waiting.
At many cafés and brasseries, seating works a bit differently. It’s often a bit of a free-for-all system, where you can walk in and choose a table (especially if there’s an outdoor terrace).
That said, always keep an eye out for tables marked réservé, which means reserved!
In restaurants and bars without obvious seating rules, it’s always best to stand at the entrance and wait for a host or hostess. They’ll usually let you know whether they’ll seat you or whether you can “installez-vous” (take a seat anywhere).
When you walk in, don’t forget to greet the host or staff member running the room. You can say bonjour or bonsoir depending on the time of day.
Ordering Food
Once you’ve been seated, it’s time to peruse the menu and order your meal. In France, there are three typical courses: entrée (starter), plat principal (main course), and dessert (dessert, of course!).
Some French menus include additional courses. First is an amuse bouche, a small, complimentary bite served before the meal in more upscale restaurants. It’s meant to awaken your palate before the main meal.
Fromage (cheese) is either served as its own course or occasionally as part of dessert. At a French dinner party, salad is often offered with the cheese course too.
Le Menu
Many restaurants in France offer un menu, which is a fixed selection of dishes curated by the restaurant. There are often several menus available at different price points. Some common menus that you’ll see are:
- entrée + plat
- plat + dessert
- or (slightly more expensive) entrée + plat + dessert
Depending on where you eat, cheese (fromage) or even a small selection of drinks may also be included as part of the menu.
The portions are made so that you can comfortably finish everything too.
When ordering un menu, you’ll usually choose your entire meal upfront (sometimes you pick your dessert later though).
You may also notice a menu du jour, especially at lunchtime. This is the daily set menu that’s usually more affordable and changes regularly.
What if you don’t like the menu options? You can sometimes swap a dish from a menu with something from la carte, but it’s not generally encouraged. The only time I’ve asked is when the à la carte option was cheaper or I had a reasonable excuse (like I’m vegetarian and need a dish with no meat).
À la Carte
Ordering à la carte simply means choosing individual dishes from the menu. It’s usually more expensive than ordering le menu, but you can pick what you want based on your preference and budget. Sometimes it makes more sense to order from la carte (the menu), especially if you don’t have a big appetite.
Changing the Menu
In France, it’s generally not considered appropriate to alter a dish by removing ingredients, substituting elements, or requesting changes that are not listed on the menu.
Did you see that episode of Emily in Paris where she sends back her steak for being too rare? It might be TV, but the scene isn’t entirely fiction! The client is not king in France, especially when it comes to dining.
The chef has carefully prepared each dish with a specific balance of flavors, textures, and presentation in mind.
If you have allergies, dietary restrictions, or anything that could genuinely affect your health, it is completely normal to inform the staff in advance.
And if you’re ever unsure about a dish or ingredients on the menu, it’s also perfectly acceptable to ask questions before ordering. In fact, you should ask. It helps avoid misunderstandings and ensures you know exactly what you’re getting.
Ordering Drinks
There are specific rules and even an order for drinks in France.
Apéritif (Apero)
You might begin your meal with an apéritif (or apéro for short). This is an alcoholic drink enjoyed before eating, meant to stimulate the appetite.
Typical options include wine, spirits, or Champagne. Many restaurants also feature a dedicated apéritif section on the drinks menu with classic choices such as Ricard, Kir, Martini, Campari, or Lillet Blanc.
Apéritifs are sometimes served alongside small bites or hors d’œuvres too.
Wine
No surprise here, wine is a huge part of the dining culture in France. After the apéritif, it’s standard to order wine to accompany the meal.
Be sure to browse my beginner’s guide to French wine for all of the essential info. What’s most important to know is that red wine typically goes with heartier meat dishes, while white wine is better paired with fish and lighter meals.
You can order wine in several ways. By the glass, by the bottle, or sometimes as a pichet (a small carafe, larger than a glass but smaller than a bottle. Perfect for sharing).
If you’re unsure what to choose, it’s completely normal to ask the staff for recommendations. In fact, most of my French friends will do this when we go out to eat! Most servers are very knowledgeable and can suggest pairings based on your dish and preferences.
In more formal or high-end restaurants, you may also be guided by a sommelier. This is a trained wine expert whose role is to help you select the best bottle based on what you’re eating, your taste preferences, and your budget.
In France, it’s also considered a polite gesture for a man to pour the wine at the table (unless, of course, you’re just dining with your girlfriends). Traditionally, wine is served to women first, then the rest of the table.
Digestif
After the meal, some people finish with a digestif, a drink intended to aid digestion.
This may include spirits such as calvados, cognac, armagnac, eaux-de-vie, or amaretto. Sans alcohol, there is also black coffee and herbal tea.
Just like with apéritif, some restaurants include a dedicated digestif section on the menu too.
Water
When ordering water in France, you’ll usually be asked whether you want still or sparkling. The server will then bring you bottled water (served in a glass bottle), but keep in mind that it is not free.
If you don’t want to pay for water, you can request a carafe d’eau, which is a jug of tap water. The quality of tap water is generally very good across France (including in Paris).
It’s also considered polite to offer water to others at the table if you are serving it yourself. The French only fill their water glasses half way and refill more frequently too.
Other Drinks
It’s pretty common for the French to only drink water or wine during a meal. However, it also depends on the region and type of cuisine too.
Eating a burger joint? Ordering a Coke Zero is completely normal. Here in Strasbourg, it’s usual to order beer with a lot of Alsatian dishes.
Of course, there are no strict rules, so feel free to order whatever you want! You’ll also find plenty of non-alcoholic options on the menu like iced tea, limonade, fruit juice, sirop, Orangina, mocktails, etc.
Saying Cheers
Once drinks arrive, it’s customary to say “cheers” before taking your first sip.
In France, this is done by clinking glasses with everyone at the table while making eye contact. There’s even a superstition that failing to make eye contact can bring seven years of bad luck in relationships. Trust me, the French take cheers-ing very seriously!
Make sure you never cross arms over someone else’s either.
To say cheers in French, you can use santé (meaning “good health”) or chin chin (the sound of clinking glasses).
All About Bread
There’s almost nothing I love more about dining in France than the bread!
At most restaurants, you’re served a basket of bread for the table. Unlike in some countries where bread costs extra, in France it’s completely free and you can ask for more if you run out.
One thing that might surprise you though is that bread is not eaten with butter (even though France produces some of the best beurre in the world).
Instead, it’s meant to accompany your meal. One of the most traditional (and perfectly acceptable) French habits is using bread to sop up those delicious sauces at the end of your meal. In fact, there’s even a French verb, saucer, which literally means to mop up sauce from your plate.
Getting the Attention of Waitstaff
Service in France can feel different if you’re coming from the U.S. where waitstaff are usually quite attentive. In many restaurants, there’s less small talk and fewer “check ins” during your meal. Never has a server introduced themselves to me either.
One infamous mistake that you might hear is referring to your waiter as “garçon.” While I’ve never heard of this before (I guess it is popular in old movies), it’s considered outdated and disrespectful today.
One infamous mistake you may have heard about is calling your waiter garçon. While I’ve never actually heard anyone use it in real life (it seems to have survived mostly in old movies), it’s considered outdated and disrespectful today.
If you need something, make eye contact with your server or give a small nod. Someone will usually come over as soon as they notice you.
Being polite and respectful goes a long way too. I’ve even been offered complimentary drinks and desserts at the end of a meal simply because I was kind. In my experience, if you treat the staff with respect, they’ll usually return the favor.
Let Go and Linger
French servers don’t rely on tips to supplement their income. As a result, there’s much less incentive to turn tables quickly.
The French love drawn out meals, so you’re generally welcome to stay as long as you’d like. Take your time, order dessert or a coffee, and enjoy the conversation (or your own quiet company).
Asking for the Bill
If you’re waiting for the bill to magically appear, you could be sitting there for quite a while.
In France, your server will almost never bring the check unless you ask for it. In fact, bringing the bill without being asked could make guests feel as though they’re being hurried out.
When you’re ready to leave, you can ask your server:
- L’addition, s’il vous plaît. (The bill, please.)
- Est-ce que je peux régler ? (Can I pay?)
Depending on the restaurant, you may pay directly at the table or be asked to pay at the counter.
As you’re paying, your server will often ask something like Ça va ? Ça s’est bien passé ? (“Was everything okay?”).
A simple Oui, merci, c’était très bon ! (“Yes, thank you, it was very good!”) is a friendly response.
Tipping
Restaurant staff in France are paid a living wage, and a service charge is already included in the price of your meal. This means you are not expected to leave a 15–20% tip.
That said, leaving a small pourboire (tip) is always appreciated if you’ve received particularly good service.
Personally, if my server was especially friendly, gave excellent recommendations, or went above and beyond to make the experience enjoyable, I’ll usually round up the bill or leave a few extra euros.
For fine dining or Michelin-starred restaurants, leaving around €5–€10 per person for exceptional service isn’t unusual, particularly since the tip is often shared among several staff members, including the maître d’hôtel, servers, and sommelier.
I’ve noticed that more and more restaurants in France now display a tipping option on the card machine. Don’t feel pressured to select one. I usually choose “No Tip” unless I was genuinely impressed by the service.
Taking Food to Go
You’ve probably heard that asking for a doggy bag in France is frowned upon. While that may have been true years ago, it’s much less of a taboo today.
Most everyday restaurants are happy to pack up leftovers if you ask, especially now that so many also offer takeaway and delivery through services like Uber Eats and they already have to-go containers on hand.
The main exception tends to be very traditional gastronomic or fine dining restaurants, where takeaway may not always be possible.
To be honest, I rarely need to ask anyway. Portion sizes in France are generally smaller than what I’m used to in the U.S., so I usually finish my meal without any leftovers.
But when I can’t quite make it through a hearty bœuf bourguignon or one of the many tartes flambées I love eating here in Strasbourg, I’ve almost always been able to get a box to take the rest home.
Discover More on French Etiquette
- 15 French Etiquette Rules Everyone Should Know
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Do you have any French dining etiquette rules to add? Let me know in the comments below.
